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Avoiding Blogger Meltdown

I didn’t put up a post last week.  Also, this isn’t even the post that I had planned for this week, it was supposed to be about a super cool tabletop my husband made for me to use as a backdrop in my blog photos, and last week, I was supposed to do the next installment of the date night series.  BUT…I had a tinyish blogger meltdown last week, and I didn’t remember to plan the date or finish writing the “how-to” or take any pictures or create any graphics.  I tried using my lunch hours to catch up, but…it was a no go.  So I went post-less last week. Gasp!

Sometimes we get so caught up in blogging that it leads to blogger meltdown! We can combat the burnout!

I have lofty goals for my blog (and other aspects of my life), and I have really been pushing myself to achieve them in the last 6 months.  I have been living and breathing my blog , and last week, it all became too much and I just plopped into bed every night at 7:30 and watched youtube videos for 4 hours then went to sleep.  I didn’t update buffer, so Twitter went silent for a few days. I only posted to Instagram sporadically.  I didn’t do any blog photography or work on any graphics, and all my attempts at writing were rather lackluster.

I love blogging, I really do, and most days it definitely does NOT feel like a chore.  However, last week, I was basically forcing myself to go through the motions, and, honestly, I didn’t do that great a job.  This lethargy spread to other tasks as well…laundry piled up, the house fell into disarray, unopened mail was a mile high on the counter, and dinner was take-out three times. I think my blogger meltdown kinda turned into life in general burnout!!!

I have been wracking my brain for the last few days, trying to figure out my problem.  How can I get my motivation back? What caused it to evaporate so suddenly? And, I think I found the answer.  Remember earlier, when I said I have “been living and breathing my blog?” Yeah. That.  I forgot to do stuff, like um, you know, for funsies. I was too focused.  Not taking a break, ever, will definitely lead you straight to a burnout blogger meltdown!

Tweet: QUIT BEATING YOURSELF UP BECAUSE YOU LEFT SOMETHING ON YOUR TO-DO LIST AND OPTED FOR SLEEP INSTEAD!!!! http://bit.ly/2e0YtFD @daralikesara “Quit beating yourself up because you left something on your to-do list and opted for sleep instead”

So to combat this overwhelming apathy, and to keep it from ever coming back again, I am going to shoot for at least a couple hours each week doing something just for fun’s sake.   I made a little list (of course I did) of things that I want and need to do for my own sanity.  I thought some of you might be in the same boat, so I am sharing the list here 🙂

  1. Take a walk or hike without looking for the Instagram shot.  Go out to eat without taking a picture of the food or the drink or the cool ceiling or the pretty flower planter in front of the restaurant.  Even better, if you can leave your phone in the car.
  2. Play a game with your kid/family/significant other/dog without writing a blog post in your head about how fun it is.
  3. Read a book that you don’t have to write a review post on. Remember when you used to love to read just for fun?
  4. Watch silly videos without searching for the ones that need to go in your buffer to be shared on Twitter.
  5.  Read a blog post that interests you just for the sheer enjoyment of learning the information, and not because you need to craft a perfect comment because you need to comment on at least two posts from the link-up.
  6.  Spend a Saturday afternoon binge-watching a show on Netflix and DO NOT FEEL GUILTY because you are not joining a Twitter party, not promoting your post on social media, not working on your e-guide,  or whatever other million tasks you “should” be doing.
  7. QUIT BEATING YOURSELF UP BECAUSE YOU LEFT SOMETHING ON YOUR TO-DO LIST AND OPTED FOR SLEEP INSTEAD!!!!

Now, as you can see, this list is obviously very personal, and specific to things I am doing to myself, and you probably have your own list of ways you stressing yourself out.  What I am trying to get at here, is that sometimes you have to take a break and just live.  It is very hard to shut it off, especially since most days it is tons of fun, but I found out last week that even fun work, is still work.  Occasionally, I need to do things that are 100% just for fun.

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Do you have a hard time leaving blogger mode and just having a good time?  What tricks do you use to maintain balance?

 


12 thoughts on “Avoiding Blogger Meltdown

  1. I feel ya. The second biggest lie I tell myself is “Oh, I don’t have to write it down. I’ll remember it later”. I get so mad at myself when I think of something funny for the blog and then forget. I really should just enjoy the moment and quit trying to memorize it. (The biggest lie is “I don’t have to change clothes. I won’t get any paint on me”.)

    It reminds me of when I’m wearing a Fitbit and then I get mad when I realize that none of the steps counted in the store because I was holding the cart. Then I look like a dork next time, pushing the cart with one arm and swinging the other so the steps register. Worse yet, typing this paragraph made me immediately think “Oh, I could make a blog post out of that”.

    But, face it, we’re writers. We write about our experiences. That’s what we do.

    I hope you chill, Sweets. Don’t you guys be breaking my Dara.

    1. I don’t need a drop cloth, I won’t get paint on the floor 😉

      I am getting a 90 minute facial tomorrow, so I will definitely be chill after that. If not then there is no hope for me!

      I had no idea that the fit bit only counted if you swing your arm, can you pump your arm really fast and register as running? (I honestly didn’t mean that in a dirty way when I originally typed it, but then after my mind went to the gutter, I find that I am okay with the secondary meaning as well)

  2. It happens to everyone. I think we get so excited about our plans for our blogs that we forget about living in between the goal benchmarks. I hit a brick wall a month or so ago with my blog and readjusted my whole blogging schedule because of it. I think ultimately it’s just about finding a balance.

    -M

    Violet Roots || Instagram

    1. Balance can be a tricky thing, but I am going to really work on it. I am glad you found a way to readjust, maybe you can give me pointers 🙂

  3. Great post. I think it’s easy to for every blogger who is trying to do their best at blogging to feel run down or burnt out. You have to make sure you take time for yourself – do fun things – don’t worry about blogging every second of the day. I feel like I do fairly well, even if I do wish I’d scheduled certain posts, etc. I just have to work with what I have and sometimes that’s a night of no blogging and sometimes it’s a night where I do TONS of blogging things.

    -Lauren

    1. I am definitely working on finding balance! It sounds like you have it pretty much figured out 🙂 Thanks for stopping by.

  4. I know, there’s so much to know with blogging that I feel if I’m not doing something, I’m always finding 10 other things I need to be doing. I take a break when I need it and while i’m not the most consistent blogger, I have been doing better spacing myself out these last couple weeks. We’re in the home stretch of the 4th quarter which is when last year I had my highest income.

    I’ve been looking over my notes from the Daily Productivity Guide for Bloggers from Elite Blog Academy that I took and keeping that in mind so I keep my eyes on my goals and the big picture. It helps me stay motivated. In fact, that guide is on sale till tomorrow only as part of the Genius Toolkit bundle and I wrote all about time management today in case you wanted to stop by.

    http://momssmallvictories.com/time-management-tips-achieve-dream-life/

  5. Absolutely right. Everything in moderation. The internet won’t go away if you aren’t tending to it every minute! When I retired, I wanted to complete my first novel, but I got distracted by, oh, whatever. It took me about six months to remember that I’m task driven and need a schedule. Once I was on a schedule with plenty of free time included plus options to quite working in the afternoons, I soared through that novel and had art shows and didn’t wear out. Good for you and smart too!

    1. Ooooh scheduling free time is a good idea! Thanks for the tip. It sounds like you still managed to get a lot of work done 🙂

  6. This has definitely been me lately. I really feel like I’ve been neglecting my relationship with my husband lately, always in front of a screen, going to bed late….and I need to read for fun again!

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