You Gotta Have Goals

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Most of my life, I have just gone with the flow. My current career path kinda just happened. I live in North Carolina because it seemed like a fun idea 10ish years ago.  I am thirty-six years old (yikes!), and I still have no idea what path I want to be on.

So…I decided to write down on paper my goals (or dreams or aspirations or whatever you want to call it) for my life, and it was quite a daunting task. I didn’t really know where to start. Have you ever just asked yourself “What do I want?” not “What should I do or What does my husband/job/kids/parents need me to do?”. It proved to be a very tough question because as a wife and mother, I have a hard time wanting things that are just for me and that don’t benefit my family directly.

So, to get the juices flowing, I started with what do I really really like to do?

I like to write, both the process of writing and the physical act of writing.
I like to make lists and plan things.  Oh! How I love lists 🙂
I like to act and make films.
I like to travel and have new experiences.
I like to take pictures.
I like to do home improvement projects (I recently discovered this as I was sanding the old paint off of my daughter’s closet door and found myself enjoying it!)

Then I was on to the big question, if I am being 100% selfishly honest, *What do I want?*:

I want the means and time to travel.
I want to keep my mind engaged.
I want to create things both intellectually and physically.
I want to avoid a static life, I want flexibility and randomness.
I want the ability to spend quality time with my kids before they are off on their own paths.
And…I want to provide for my family (and live comfortably) acting, writing, filming, creating and traveling.

Can I accomplish these things? Who knows?  Most likely,  I will never be able to quit my day job and live the crazy blogger life, but it is creatively fulfilling to write these blog posts.  I mean, without goals or a project to plan–I start to feel restless then melancholy and from there it is just a short hop to depression, then I have to do impulsive things (like buy a camera), but seriously, it is always a good idea to have something to strive for. So…

What are your goals and aspirations?  




  • Reply Akaleistar May 2, 2016 at 8:12 pm

    I’ve been asking these questions, too! I would love to travel and act and write 🙂

    • Reply darabre@gmail.com May 3, 2016 at 7:28 pm

      It would be a nice life huh? Thanks for stopping by!

  • Reply halfa1000miles May 5, 2016 at 9:48 pm

    Would it not be the coolest thing if we could live off of blogging? *sigh*

  • Reply Dana May 21, 2016 at 10:55 am

    It’s funny how certain concepts are swirling around for so many people at the same time. I am writing a post about success in blogging (but it’s really life in general) and defining your personal core beliefs. Then taking it a step further with a little worksheet I’m creating. Will be bookmarking your post to share in relation to this developing post.


    • Reply darabre@gmail.com May 21, 2016 at 11:42 am

      That sounds awesome! I am looking forward to the worksheet 🙂 Thanks for stopping by!

  • Reply Nadine January 14, 2017 at 12:33 am

    I love your lists 🙂 I’m also a list person. Makes me feel like (and shows me) I actually accomplish things in my busy mommy days! I can’t wait to see how the year plays out for you!!

    • Reply darabre@gmail.com January 14, 2017 at 4:39 pm

      Lists are the best right?!? I love checking off those completed items, it just makes me feel good about life 🙂

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